Monday, December 03, 2012

Living ourselves to death

Yes I know this is a computer game, one of the things that serves as distractions from the real journey 

What a notion. We are living ourselves to death . Whether we like it or not, whether it sends chills down our spine or not , death is at the end of the journey we are travelling on. For those of us who have a belief, a faith that death is the beginning of another journey and this life is a preparation for this other journey our fear becomes a focused one. We fear that we will not be able to prepare enough for this coming journey .

Islam defines my faith but I probably cannot be categorised.  Am I a fundementalist Muslim, a liberal Muslim, a universalist  or an ignorant Muslim? Perhaps in any one moment, I am one of those definitions. Sometimes I act like an ignorant Muslim when I forget to raise my children knowing the fundamental rules of being Muslim like respect for one's parents, knowing their rights and the rights of their guardians. At other times, it seems to my very strict fundamentalist Muslim colleagues that I mingle with, I seem rather liberal because I do not dress like they do. In my worship practices and the hijab I wear, I am fundamentalist  and sometimes it seems to those who view Islam through a narrow spectrum of what is right and see it as them versus us, I seem to be universalist as when I respect and acknowledge people of other religions. For my own self, what defines my faith is the depth of my belief that I have to live the life that God intended for me and for which God gave me the potential to do and I have to do it within the bounds of a set of rules and regulations that I choose to adopt and adhere to. Sometimes I get distracted by the glitter of life and forget for a while and at that point there is no congruence and alignment with my beliefs. I then need to realign myself and I am now realigning as I write this.

So coming back to us and by us I mean those who have a firm conviction there is life after death and who have a Supreme Being to answer to. What shall we do this day to fulfill our life purpose? To live the life intended for us? What needs to happen for us to be able to say to the Supreme Being that we have done that  for which we have been given the gifts talents and skills.  What needs to happen for us to have thoroughly prepared ourselves for the life to come? For the truth of the matter is every single minute we waste is a minute we will never recover ever again and it is a single minute that we have neglected to do that which we were intended to do in the limited time the Supreme Being gave to us. So please let us not fritter our lives away and cry when it is just too late to do that which the Supreme Being intended for us to do.

Sunday, September 23, 2012

I expect you to....

When I was 8 years old, I asked for a desk and a chair for my birthday. One little desk with one little chair so that I could sit and draw or paint or read all by myself . Instead my dad bought a round desk with 4 chairs. I was really upset and wanted to throw the desk and chair out from the play room my parents had assigned to me.  Their thought was that I would be happy to have a table where my friends could come and play with me and we could have fun together, they thought I would be very happy to have a table where I could socialise and they did not know what I already had in my mind and what I was expecting to get. From my perspective now, I am sure my parents were perplexed and not a little disappointed with my reaction but from a coach's point of view, I now see what went wrong. It was about a difference between my expectations and my parents thoughts of what my expectations were.

I see this happening in our dealings with people quite a lot and wonder how many problems could have been avoided if we could have a discussion between the two parties interacting with each other and get a better picture of what the other expects.

Examples from my  past experiences:

A speaker was engaged for a conference and it was understood he would be given free food and lodging. The contracting was not well done however, and, he arrived several days earlier and decided to fly back several days later. He expected his whole visit to be paid for by the organizer but the organizers only wanted to pay for three days including the day of his presentation. This difference in expectation and the resulting misunderstanding could have been avoided if the terms of his engagement were stipulated clearly beforehand.

For Muslims, I would like to point out that contracting is clearly stated in several verses of the Quran.( Verses at the end of this article)

An agreement between two parties should at first be clearly stated, so that both parties are clear on what would be provided and in which quantity and on what date under what terms . This applies even to freebies and to any other dealings between two parties. It could be between patient and doctor, between customer and vendor , between a professional and his client, between a teacher and the pupils, between a husband and a wife and the list is endless. A discussion followed by a thorough understanding of what the other party expects is a contract, whether it be verbal or written. A written contract is far superior to a verbal one when it comes to disputes which arise after the contracting.

A vague promise by one party say Mr A,  would lead the other party, Mr B to imagine the undertaking to be more than what Mr A was willing to give and this applies to all of the parties I mentioned above and any that you could think of .

This also holds true for service providers who get payment for their services. Supposing I were to engage an entertainer for an event. Surely there will be terms of the payment . Perhaps a payment and some other benefits. What if there was an agreement to the terms and just before the event, the entertainer made some new requests? Surely I would feel that the entertainer had reneged on the original agreement and it would upset me. Indeed, in this case, the entertainer should right from the beginning state his/her terms and make sure that he/she does not demand more that what was agreed upon even if it meant he/she was being compensated less that what he/she felt he/she deserved!

An example I often quote between two people who marry each other is the expectation of the wife that she is getting a prince charming who will bring her flowers and gifts while the husband is imagining there is now someone who will cook and clean for him in the daytime while becoming a femme fatale at night ! Fireworks indeed when the prince charming turns out to be a snoring couch potato and the cook cleaner and femme fatale turns out to be a the girl who can only take care of her own little body or one who does the cooking and cleaning and gets so tired out that she goes to bed with her sweaty work clothes! So, you guys and girls who are planning to get married, do manage your expectations of each other , talk it out and spell out the dos and don'ts and make it as realistic and practical as possible . 

Below I quote several verses from the Quran that speak about contracts and honoring its terms:

1. O you who believe! Fully discharge (the obligations arising through) contracts
(Surah Ma’idah 5:1).

2. …and those who truly care for their trusts (left by others in their care) and their
covenants. (Surah Mu’minun 23:8).

1. Fully discharge the volume (to be provided to the client) when you measure in
volume, and weigh (the commodities sold by weight) by an accurate scale. That is
goodness and better (as a material and practical) interpretation (of the contract of sale
you have concluded).
(Surah Isra 17:34)

Tuesday, June 05, 2012

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

International Conference on Homeopathy Malaysia 2011

Report on the First International Conference on Evidence Based Homoeopathy
This July marked a first for Homeopathy in Malaysia, an international Homeopathy conference was held for the first time. The First International Conference on Homoeopathy was help on 15th-17th July 2011 at the Putra World Trade Center, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. The theme was “Is Homoeopathy Evidence Based?” It was jointly hosted by the Ministry of Health (Traditional & Complimentary Division) and the Malaysian Homoeopathic Medical Council.
There were concurrent sessions at the preconference workshop which commenced with the deliberation of the homoeopathic gastro-enterologist from Australia Dr. Hassim Seedat on “Finding the Similimum in Gastrointestinal Disorders” where he guided the audience on the method of case taking and repertorization along with presentation of a few cases of Ulcerative Colitis from his practice. In the concurrent session, there was the “Introduction to Evidence Based Medicine” by Datin Dr. Rugayah Bakri (Head of Health Technology Assessment Unit, Ministry of Health, Malaysia.) Mrs. Sin Lian Thye spoke on “Steps in searching for literature” while Mrs. Noormah Mohd Darus gave a detailed presentation on “Evaluating the Quality and Methodology of Systematic Review and Rct papers.” Dr. Izzuna Mudla Mohamed Ghazali (Epidemiologist) took a marathon 2 hour session on “Evaluating the Quality and Methodology of observational papers” and “Summarizing and Synthesizing Evidence.” She then joined Mrs. Noormah and Dr. Bakri for a group work on “Appraising a Paper.” Dr. Suriyakhatun Osman spoke on the role of Chronic Miasms in “Behcet’s Disease” where as Dr. Geeta Rani Arora exhibited the finesse of the homoeopathic software “RADAR” in clinical practice.
The inauguration ceremony saw much fanfare. After the official opening speech read on behalf of Y.B. Dato’ Sri Liow Tiong Lai; Minister of Health, Malaysia, the Keynote Address was delivered by YBhg Dato’ Dr Maimunah Hamid . She spoke at length on “Integrating Traditional and Complementary Medicine into Malaysian Health Care.” The preliminary sessions were on Evidence based Homoeopathy Practice and Homoeopathic Trials and Research. It started with Dr. Peter Fisher’s (United Kingdom) exposition on “The efficacy and real world effectiveness of Homoeopathy” followed by “Homoeopathic Prescribing in Rheumatology” and finally “Integrating Homoeopathy Into National Health System: UK experience.” He went on to answer 3 pertinent questions : Do homoeopathic medicines have beneficial effects that are not placebo effects?; Does homoeopathy as a whole system of medicine provide benefit in terms of effectiveness and cost-effectiveness; and is homoeopathy safe? Towing the line of the keynote address, Dr. Azman Abu Bakar - IHSR Director, Ministry of Health, Malaysia painted the Malaysian picture on “Evidence Based Medicine : Application in Traditional and Complementary Medicine and the way forward.”
The conference experienced 3 well researched papers by Alastair Gray (Australia). The Head of Homeopathy at Endeavour College of Natural Health spoke on “Systemic review of positive & negative Homoeopathic trials in the Treatment & management of Named Conditions & Diseases”, “Homoeopathic research: Pathway to higher education” and the last paper on “ Contemporary method in the Ethics, conducting, collating, extracting and publishing of Homoeopathic proving.” Dr. Clare Relton (United Kingdom) also presented 3 papers namely “Homoeopathy : What type of clinical evidence is required”; “How to design Homoeopathic Clinical randomized Controlled trials that Work” and “Understanding the evidence: Insomnia and Fibromyalgia Syndrome.”
The following sessions saw the works of a young and dynamic homoeopath cum biophysicist from United Kingdom Dr. Alexander Tourner. Combining his expertise of both the subjects (physics and homoeopathy) Alex presented papers on “The physics of Homoeopathy : The state of the Evidence” and “Theoretical model of Homoeopathy: How does it work?” His final paper vividly highlighted “Prof. Luc Montagnier”s Research on high dilutions and it’s Application in Homoeopathy.” The Head of the world renown Finlay Institute at Cuba Dr. Gustavo Bracho narrated his experiences in “Homoeopathic Approach to Dengue: Recent Experiences and strategies”, “Large scale of Homoeoprophylaxis for Epidemic control: Leptospirosis” and “Vaccines & Homoeoprophylaxis: Experiences and potentials.” Then came the turn of the veteran homoeopath from Australia, Dr. Issac Golden. He spoke on “Evidence base of Homeoprophylaxis” and “Long term Homoeoprophylaxis in Endemic conditions.”
One session was dedicated in discussing the present scenario of homoeopathy in Malaysia. Dr. Ramli Abd. Ghani Director T & CM division, Health Ministry, Malaysia deliberated on “Current & future regulation for T & CM practioners” while Dr. Suriyakhatun Osman, from the Malaysian Homoeopathic Medical Council spoke on “Current development of Homoeopathy in Malaysia.” She emphasized upon the fact that within the next decade Malaysia is to become the hub of Homoeopathic Medicine, education, research and industry, particularly in the ASEAN region.
Dr. Reishmi Devan of the Cyberjaya University college of Medical sciences gave the grass root reality of “Education and Training In Homoeopathy.” The session ended with the paper on “Conduct of HTA in T & CM : EBM approach” by Datin Dr. Rugayah Bakri.
Dr. Kate Chatfield (United Kingdom) spoke on 2 topics “Systemic review of the research Evidence for Homoeopathy In the treatment of Allergic conditions” and “The nature of evidence and Homeopathy.”
The grand conference witnessed the final paper in the form of “Clinico-angiographic profile in Young patients of Ischaemic Heart Disease & scope of Homoeopathy” a decade long research carried out by Dr. Aadil Chimthanawala from India.
This conference was a platform for the homoeopathic fraternity and the general public of Malaysia to understand more about homoeopathy – and it served its purpose well.
Adapted from report by Dr Aadil Chimthanawala