Communication from the Domain of the Heart.-June Sufi Healing Class

Communication from the Domain of the Heart


Dr Suriyakhatun Osman

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Part One


“*Since the nature of life is action and reaction, every outer experience has a reaction within, and every inner experience has its reaction in the outer life.”*

Aphorims of HIK


The lady who walked into the room in the afternoon looked familiar. In my usual dreamy style , I had forgotten when I 'd seen her last and when I looked at the notes I mistook the date and thought she was coming in for her yearly check when in actual fact she had just been to see me the previous month for inserting an IUD, a contraceptive device. When I asked her how she was and asked if she was coming for her yearly check up , she snapped at me and told me in no uncertain terms that she was the patient who waited a whole hour in the treatment room because I had forgotten about her only a month ago and today she also waited a long time before I finally called her. She then went into a tirade about some other things and she was in a blaming mood, practically blaming everything she could think of on me. Old experienced doctors like me who have been in practice more than 20 years are well respected and I almost never get a patient who found me fare game for such an outburst so this young lady's tantrum shook me up somewhat. I knew I was responsible because with a hundred and one things on my mind, I did do some multitasking and was late calling her in. Half finished on my computer screen was a slide presentation I was preparing about communication and perhaps with the work fresh in my mind I focused on trying to talk to her as honestly and as close to 'Haq' as I possibly could.

I began in a low and calm voice to tell how how sorry I was for all my shortcomings. I told her honestly I could see she was very angry with me and asked her how I could make it up to her. While I was saying this , I focused on my breathing and was speaking to her from the domain of the heart. There was no echoing anger in me, only a great need to mend the situation.

The change in the energy was palpable. Not only did she stop being angry, she started opening up to me, telling me her worries and concerns over her health.

In a spirit of love and intimacy , I finished the examination and her greeting as she left the room was warm and heartfelt .As she left she apologized to me for her outburst. My receptionist told me she was smiling as she left my clinic.

This anecdote that I relate introduces our class for this month, Communication from the Domain of the Heart. How often we find ourselves in situations when we react instead of respond. How often that results in difficult situations and 'dances' that are repeated time and again until we learn not to react but to respond. ? How does one learn to respond rather than to react?



"Murshid, when I come to you I come with a thousand complaints to make.

Why is it that the power of your presence disarms me?"

Murshid: "Because I have disarmed myself."

Anecdotes of Hazrat Inayat Khan Seite 1


Do relate your experiences with such communications , insha allah it will enrich our class for this month

response to a response

Thank you for the responses.

Some patients have a compulsive need to trigger such reactions to reinforce
their rejection pattern.

It is the energy of the other person that we feel . I once caught myself becoming very angry only to realise that it was the key to the remedy the patient needed. The patient was a baby with cereberal palsy who almost never stopped crying . He was already 6 months old when the parents brought him to see me.Soon after he and his parents walked into my room I started becoming angry. He was screaming at the top of his voice and the parents told me this was his usual manner except when he is feeding or sleeping.I took the baby from his mum and gave him to his dad , instructing him to take the baby out to the waiting room and do a zikr,Ya Salam all the time. I then did a breathing exercise with the mum , we can try it now . After the breathing exercise, I got a history from the mum. She had become extremely angry when a doctor remarked to a nurse who was trying to teach her to suckle the baby at the breast while she was warded with the baby when they were investigating his cereberal palsy. He had remarked to the nurse that she was wasting her time because the baby was brain damaged and could not suckle. The mother became very angry but did not say anything . She did manage to breastfeed the baby after this but never stopped being angry up to the moment she was with me.A this point there was a palpable silence because the baby had miraculously stopped crying.

Here is the exercise that we did together.
Focus on your breathing. Do not try to change it but just be aware of it. Observe the in breath and the out breath . Observe how your heart-space feels.In the Quran the heart space is called the "Sadr" and there are many places where it is referred to as expanded or narrowed. How does your "sadr " feel. Is it heavy or expanded or tight or narrow?Is your breathing fast or slow, is it deep or shallow?
Following a quantum physics law, the breathing changes when we observe it. It becomes more regular and deep. We also become calmer and become aware of our emotions. We become aware of the state of our heart-space and probably the reasons why if it is not in an essential state.
The boundaries of the heart-space are the clavicles, the rib cage,the stermum , the scapula and the diaphragm below. Some people may notice that it actually expands to the throat area and the solar plexus area.

Communication from the Domain of the Heart 2

I met an amazing woman this weekend. I was on a beautiful island in Thailand called Koh Samui. Both of us were attending a workshop. This tall Dutch woman walked with a crutch and had to be sent to the lecture room with a buggy.At 54, she was a cripple almost since birth. She lived in hospitals and insititutions because she was almost paralized and had constant fits . The doctors finally diagnosed her has having a form of systemic lupus and told her when she was about 20 that she had only a few more years to live. The drugs they gave her almost paralysed her and she was wheelchair bound. She looked for alternatives and met with an acupuncturist. He said to her, please remove your clothes so that I can examine you. Hearing this she burst out crying for none of the doctors had ever asked her permission to examine her or to subject her to any kind of scrutiny .Another alternative practitioner to whom she was referred to by the acupuncturist worked with her for six years and helped her to stand and walk again.Remarkably, she later met a person who financed her education and training and she then worked as a social worker.She had lived in the US and India and was now living in Thailand. She now called herself by a name her spiritual teacher gave her , Taro.Taro taught me something about the human spirit that I could not have understood had I not met her. I cannot begin to relate what I learned from her because the language of our communication is the language of the heart.This woman had learned to pray for whatever she needed and it would simply come into her life. Although dependent with her disability , she was more independant than many other more mobile people. She was however totally surrendered to guidance from the One.

Communication from the heart is about understanding the still voice from within that guides us and brings to us what we need in our lives. It shows to us our life purpose and guides us to the means to fulfill it.
" Open our hearts that we may hear Thy Voice calling to us from within" Prayer of Hazrat Inayat Khan

In the busi- ness of the day, in all that we do and all that we are occupied with it is the communication and guidance that can turn the time management into a flow of surrendering to the moment . When we learn to communicate with the Divine and are guided from within, our time management changes from coping to directing to thriving

exercise:
Have a look at the chart below and gauge where you are right now.
Use the breathing exercise from the last lesson and place the question in your heart space.
How is my communication with the Divine?
Is my life thriving?

"Whoso believeth in Allah and the Last Day is exhorted to act thus. And whosoever keepeth his duty to Allah, Allah will appoint a way out for him, (QS. 65:2And will provide for him from (a quarter) whence he hath no expectation. And whosoever putteth his trust in Allah, He will suffice him. Lo! Allah bringeth His command to pass. Allah hath set a measure for all things. (QS. 65:3)"

From coping	To directing	To thriving
Time management	Information management	Life management
Dependence on the clock	Wise use of the compass	Intuitive guidance
Doing things right	Doing the right things	Being your true self
Lack of self discipline	Personal willpower	Divine will
Learn to say ‘no’	Learn to say ‘yes’	Unlearn, trust intuition, be spontaneous
Managing minutes	Managing months	Surrendering to the moment
Busy-ness	Business	Full participation in life
No time	Free self time	Freedom
Efficiency	Effectiveness	Appropriateness
Out of control	In control	Trusting, letting go
Dominance of ‘work’	Balanced living	Freedom
Consciously incompetent	Consciously competent	Unconsciously competent
Reactive, habitual, instinctual	Proactive, imaginative, intellectual	Intuitive
A focus on doing	A focus on being and doing	A focus on being and serving
Doing what’s urgent	Doing what’s important	Doing what meets the need